Love Still Lives Here- I'm Dying to be Forgiven-Bea's Story
You will not forget Bea's story of Forgiveness and Transcendence. She took a seemingly impossible, painful situation and instead created a healing place for her family.
A Little About Love Still Lives Here
Just See Me-Love Still Lives Here
Sacred Stories from the Other Side of Dementia
My upcoming book, drum roll please...is now called ‘Just See Me-Love Still Lives Here-Sacred Stories from the Other Side of Dementia’. My editor, Joyce Glass with the Writer's Academy suggested this title and I love it.
You may know I am a holistic nurse practitioner, and portrait, lifestyle and humanitarian photographer. I capture compassionate images-even of the hard times. About 2 years ago, I had a pull to document the stories of those caring for their loved ones with dementia. I believe when we truly have a ‘passion’ for something, no obstacle is too much. This is how I felt when I left the clinic to write Love Still Lives Here. It has become a book of spiritual lessons and so much more than I ever imagined. Love Still Lives Here is written so we can all be better caregivers- for others, our businesses and most importantly ourselves.
About Bea's Story
I want to tell you about Bea today. She opened her heart to tell me her story of Forgiveness and Transcendence. I met Bea about 2 years ago. We met for coffee and to talk about business networking and I knew she was brilliant. We discovered how we are both nurses! She had so many ideas for me and told me about business details I didn’t know. I was still full time in the clinic, and knew very little about starting a business. I had no idea she was going through an agonizing situation around her father, Jack Thompson’s illness until about a year later when she told me she had a story to share.
Bea’s story is one of Forgiveness and Transcendence.
Bea is one of 7 adult children, and Jack had Parkinson’s Disease. When their father was unable to care for himself and signs of Parkinson’s Disease dementia began to show, they each had their own ideas about what they taught was best. Their communication wasn’t great before Jack’s illness or after. They were not prepared to be caregivers, and didn’t know to reach out to one another. Hurt feelings, power struggles and all the emotions fear brings prevailed. Fear disguised itself as love and chaos ensued.
Bea’s story of the dark nights, loss and hardships is remarkable because of what she did.
Highlights of Bea’s story:
- There is the core of the story. In spite of all the conflict and pain, the core is “Daddy was sick and then he died.” The rest is what goes on around the core story, and while it may be our perspective, it isn’t necessarily true. Remember, there were 7 kids involved. Each one had their own story and perspective. By focusing on the core, Bea was able to let go of some of the pain and also see the perspectives of her siblings.
- Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. It is also something only you can do for yourself. it is the opposite of blame, shame and guilt.
- In spite of the pain, she purposefully found something to be grateful for. For instance, they were all present for his death, which was peaceful. She got to read a chapter from her book to her father, and it was life-changing for her.
- she could see her siblings without judgement-just for the beauty they bring.
Aren’t these amazing things? You’ll be able to read the full story in January 2018.
We learn so much from people who’ve done the work of forgiving and transcending a painful space for a loving space. This is one of the most powerful things about Just See Me-Love Still Lives Here. I learned so much about caregiving and life writing this book. I can’t wait to share it with you!